I recently read a blog post by Christine Kane that really resonated with me, and I hope it does for you too as we are reflecting on the end of 2014 and how to make 2015 full of what we need.
Resolutions are something we think we should do, and they can tend to be uninspiring, something we either end up avoiding and/or find hard to maintain all year.
I think this is because they carry with them a heavy energy, an energy that has the effect of ‘tut-tutting’ ourselves, instead of having an energy of growth, delight and sparkle.
They also tend to focus on the effect level – e.g. lose weight – without looking at the cause – “I’m unhappy and turn to food”, which is a poor level of focus for sustainable motivation.
Christine’s idea is simple but fantastic – pick a word for the year. Just one word. Let this one word inspire all your decisions and actions throughout the year. Hold it in your mind and come back to it frequently, checking in with yourself to see how this word is working for you.
Take your time in choosing your word. You might be tempted to choose many, but one is better. If you must choose more than one, try and focus on one for a period of time (say, 3-6 months) and then another after that.
Then, hold that word in your mind throughout the year, and let your word guide you to take action.
Let’s say you’d normally choose “Get organised” as a resolution because there’s too much clutter and crap in your life. Using the word idea, you would take a moment to look around, see the clutter and in time get the insight that perhaps you hold onto things. Maybe you’re scared to let go in many areas of your life, so a great word that could work well is “release”.
Say it to yourself, several times. Feel the energy of saying ‘release’ versus saying ‘get organised’. Which one is more inspiring to you? My guess is release feels like you can let go rather than feeling blocked. So look at your clutter, say release (as many times as you need to!) and see if that helps you let the clutter go.
You might find you’re holding onto other things too – relationships, anger, extra weight, stress. Becoming aware of this and infusing it with your special word allows you to grow throughout the year, having the feeling of a positive force carrying you along, rather than a punitive goal.
I love this idea and am going to try it for myself in 2015. I think that when you look at whatever is not working for you in your life and you allow it to become your teacher, your word will help you shift your intent and energy towards it on a far deeper level than if you’d chosen to think of a resolution such as “get organised”.
Here is a list of possible words or choose your own…remember to choose just one for now.
Jacqui Manning is at Darling Street Health on Tuesdays and alternate Saturdays and would be delighted to work with you in 2015 to make it your most inspiring year yet!
For more info on Jacqui go to www.thefriendlypsychologist.com.au